WHERE IS MY FATHER?

Having a married husband is the No. 1 anti-poverty weapon in the United States. Today over 40% of American kids are born to single mothers.

Being a father today is now merely a social convention, providing another life alternative life style, that over half the men choose not to accept.

Have a great Father’s Day Dad, wherever you are.

Now that I am born I don’t see my dad.  I heard his lovely deep voice for the last 9 months as I was growing in mom’s womb, but now it is gone. Other babies in the nursery seem to have their dads.

I don’t have anyone to show me how to throw a ball, ride a bike, swing a bat, or teach me to wrestle. I have no one to play hide and seek or make me just laugh.

Now, in the eight grade, my penis gets hard and I don’t know why.  Mom has no answers.  I know dad would figure it out and tell me.

I like sports because the coaches all look like by dad.  But no one is telling me what I am doing wrong in sports so I can get better in sports.  I hear President Obama’s dad left him, and he turned out ok.  I guess there is hope for me.

In high school now, I feel swarmed with pushy pretty girls who know a lot more than I do.  I am not sure how to handle this. The girls really try to get close to me.  I don’t feel prepared for all this.   I like when the girls bother me,.  I really need someone to love me and tell me how important I am.   I with I could talk to dad about my feelings. Oh dad, where are you?

All the teachers in my high school look and act just like my mom.  They seem to create a lot of stress for me.  Many of my buddies also don’t have dads around.  Smoking and pot seem to make me calmer.

I don’t know how it happened, but my friend is pregnant.  I can’t believe I can be a dad.  Perhaps her mom can get her out of this jamb.   I sure need you now dad.

I got a good job and want to live with my girl friend for a few more years.  She sure is pushy and wants to get married or she might leave me.  Dad left me, and I cant let my soul mate leave me too.  Ok honey; let’s tie the knot.

So we are having a baby.  I think this might screw up our good relationship.  Who need a third party butting in?  Dad, is that why you left?  Who has the guidebook to being a father?

All the pretty women at work are on the make.  They want to offer me good sex, and one night stands.  Variety seems to be the spice of life in this office.  Hope I don’t get caught.  I think  Dad did.

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Somehow we made 40 years together. The kids are gone, and I owe it to myself to finally get a life again. Time to break the knot. If Al Gore, John Edwards, and Larry King can do it, I sure should be able to.

Now as I am old, riddled with pain, and my new young soul mate has left me. Hey, I once was a dad. Its time for me to call my long lost son. Hope he remembers me, his dad.

COMMENTARY

Having a married husband is the No. 1 anti-poverty weapon in the United States. Today over 40% of American kids are born to single mothers.

Being a father today is now merely a social convention, providing another life alternative life style, that over half the men chooses not to accept.

Their mothers raise over half of all kids without a biological father being at home. The men provide the sperm, but then don’t partner with their women nor live with their kids.

The rights of fathers are now expendable, and women are now more prosperous and our social programs support single mothers. The system prevented them from establishing a family with the child’s mother.

The media in the past, geared men to select a mate, settle down, earn money, become productive, have kids, and try to survive for their sake.

There are no approved rules, regulations, and guidelines written anywhere. They constantly change from generation to generation and subculture to subculture. There are very few role models today and most fathers have very few parenting skills, leaving mom in charge.

MEN WANT TO BE FATHERS

Most young people think about marriage and want to get married. Men want to change, but have no clue how to do it. Many fathers are chemically dependent, and have come from dysfunctional homes, and never had a father in their homes. With no role model when growing up, they feel it impossible to fulfill the new role as a father.

Most men want to accept the responsibility of being a father, protector, and teacher to their child. They give love, but don’t accept the need to change their lifestyles and remain unmarried. They see their role in a self-serving way and bring gifts, play, and visit with their child and then leave. The mother is responsible to discipline and regulate the children.

In the fight for the almighty dollar, our economy requires both husband and wife in an intact family to work full time to just keep their heads above water. We are told what is good for the economy and government must be also good for the families.

Teen-age males not think it is OK to have a baby out of wedlock. They feel they can cohabitate after fathering a baby. The script that men should get educated married and have kids, in that order is now reversed.

A father is only as happy as his most unhappy child. The older your child gets, the more he realizes all you’ve done for him and how much you have shaped his life.

If you are a traditional father, I hope you know how much your child means to you for being the special man you are.